Are you looking for simple ways to make someone feel appreciated?
A lot of people, when they think about appreciating someone, they would imagine bringing them gifts or going out of their way and pulling some extraordinary stunt. That’s what has been projected to us through media and movies but life doesn’t work like that.
And it’s entirely possible to make someone feel worthy and good in your presence by some very simple acts that you’re going to learn in the next few moments.
So, let’s go without further ado.
6 Tips to Make Someone Feel Appreciated
If you search the internet to find tips for making someone feel appreciated, most of them are filled with some very apparent ones that you probably already would know.
So, we’ll take a different approach and focus on a bit deeper level that how can you make people feel good about themselves.
1. Always React to Their Presence
Let’s say you approach someone and go stand right next to them, but they would react as if you’re invisible, how are you going to feel? Of course, bad!
In couples, we get to hear complaints such as:
Do I not even exist for you?
The point is, to feel appreciated, people need to feel as if they exist for someone. And the simplest way to make someone feel appreciated is to always react to their presence.
- If they are in your vicinity, react to their presence by greeting them. It’s such a small act but very powerful to build rapport and make the other person feel worthy.
- If they are at a distance and you catch their eyes, just wave or smile.
- I’ve personally noticed that I used to greet some people whenever I would come across them on the street, and only reacting to their presence ended up making a good rapport.
2. Give Them Undivided Attention
Nothing sounds ruder than when a person is talking to you and you can’t stop looking at the mobile screen or something else. If you’re busy at the moment then simply let them know.
But keep doing what you’re doing and the other person is just finding their words vanish into thin air, not only it’s disrespectful but a good way to strain the relationship.
And to make someone feel appreciated, all it takes is simply giving them your undivided attention.
Put that gadget aside for the time frame they are talking to you, without frowning of course.
They will feel so special that you found them worthy enough to put away your occupation.
3. Use Body Language to Advantage
No communication topic can be completed without talking about body language. In fact, the words you say only make up for a small part of communication, the body language and tonality have the lion’s share.
So, if you want to make someone feel appreciated, you should exhibit appreciation through your behavior and attitude.
This is what you should be looking for.
- When they are talking to you, turn yourself so you face them with your front. Your front should align with their front. It’s making an effort for someone and they’ll see you doing this for them, and they’ll secretly feel worthy.
- Leaning forward is a sign of being interested like people lean forward a bit when they find their favorite scene in a movie. So, when you lean in when they’re talking, it will send them a signal that you like what they are speaking which will make them feel worthy.
- A good way to build a rapport with someone is to mirror their body language. According to psychology, we tend to like people who are like us. When you mirror them, you will look familiar to them and it’ll lead to building rapport.
4. Address Them Often with Their Names
The sweetest voice to our ears is of our name because it’s about us. This voice represents us and differentiates us from the rest of the world, making us unique so it always hits us differently when someone calls us by our name.
And a simple way to make someone feel special is to use their name often in the conversation. However, be sure to keep it in check, if you overdo it, the other person might get suspicious.
To do it in proportion, you can do the following.
- When you greet someone, your “Hi” should be followed by the name of the person.
- When asking any question, use their name at the beginning.
- When waving goodbye, use their name again.
- So, it’s like starting and ending with their name and using it with questions in between.
There’s no special benefit to using names with questions in a broader sense, it’s only to mix it up a bit in the conversation and not end up overdoing it with every sentence.
5. Always Acknowledge Their Efforts
All relationships require mutual efforts and every effort is like an investment that keeps fueling the relationship to keep it flourishing.
When someone does you a favor and you don’t acknowledge it, they low-key feel about it. They may feel themselves being taken for granted and see their efforts worth nothing to have any effect on you.
To counter it, make a habit of appreciating people whenever they do you some favor.
- If your partner or friend does something for you, let them know how much their efforts mean to you.
- Even if they didn’t do much or if it’s only a waiter serving you food, a little “Thank you” goes a long way. It makes them feel their efforts were worth it.
- Keep in mind that most people are running for validation because we’re wired like that. We seek validation to feel we are virtuous and when someone says “Thank you”, it’s fueling that much-needed validation.
- Be sure to add some smile and warmth with acknowledgment and appreciation. It will make it sound even better to them.
6. Always Fulfill the Commitments You Made to Them
In this world, there’s too much mayhem. Everyone is self-obsessed and dealing with their problems. It’s quite common to see that you’ll ask someone for a favor which they say they’ll have to look into.
This commitment they made was actually an excuse to buy time and then get busy with life. It’s so common that we sort of expect this to happen and it doesn’t even feel out of place.
But if you turn the tables, it’s a very good way to make someone feel appreciated.
- If someone asks you for a favor and you tell them that you’ll follow up about it shortly, be sure to do it.
- When you initially ask them to give you some time, they may wonder if you’re using it as an excuse to buy time and then get away. So, they somewhere in their mind, expect you to betray them. But if you actually care to do it for them out of the blue, it’ll catch them by surprise for being completely an unexpected thing.
- Such a thing will seem to them even more appreciating than usual times because they were expecting you to not do it but they did it anyway.
Conclusion
So, there we had a look at how can you make someone feel appreciated in simple ways. People nowadays expect the deed of appreciation to be heroic and something you have to do differently than your everyday life.
That’s far from the truth as making someone feel worthy can be pulled off in very simple ways and without sacrificing anything. You just have to understand a few basic human needs, what the humans crave, and be willing to spare some of your time for others selflessly.
And the ways of enlightening someone’s day in this article were based on the same principles. So, bit of knowledge and selflessness, you are ready to inject goodness into someone’s life.
Cheers!